Welcome to Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse

Access each session, all of the exercises, and the questions and comments below …

SESSION ONE: Recognizing and Understanding Narcissistic Abuse

This first session is all about what narcissism is and isn’t; the traits and different types of narcissists; why codependent personalities fall victim to narcissistic abuse, so you can avoid the “Codependent/Narcissist Trap”; the forms of manipulation and stages of narcissistic abuse; as well as how to spot the “red flags”, avoid abuse, and break free from toxic relationships. Ready to get started?!?

Questions to Ask Yourself and Journal

  • What are your immediate reactions to this video?
  • How does this exploration of narcissistic abuse apply to your own life?
  • Give a detailed account of the toxic relationship that brought you to this point.
  • Did the material help you gain further insight?
  • What was the most illuminating information for you?
  • Lastly, how do you think your newfound knowledge will help you in the future?

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SESSION TWO: Acknowledging and Breaking Free of Our Trauma Bonds

This session starts by looking at what trauma bonds are, how they’re often the result of emotional wounds and attachment issues during childhood, and how those wounds can lead us to “romanticize” toxicity. From there, we’ll look at the signs, stages, and effects of trauma bonding; how trauma bonding differs from authentic bonding; as well as how you can break the trauma chains that bind you!

Questions to Ask Yourself

  1. How are trauma bonds formed?
  2. What personality types are typically bonded through trauma?
  3. How does our society romanticize trauma bonding?
  4. Describe some of the signs and/or stages of trauma bonding.
  5. How can someone break free from a trauma bond?

Journaling Prompts

  • Have you ever experienced a trauma bond?
  • Explain in detail how this dynamic has affected you.
  • Think of someone you have an authentic bond with: how did that relationship develop differently compared to your trauma bonds?
  • How will this information help you in the future?

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SESSION THREE: Identifying and Responding to Gaslighting

In this session, we’ll start by looking at what gaslighting is and how narcissists use it to manipulate and control others. We’ll then discuss how to recognize gaslighting and distinguish it from healthy disagreement, as well as how you can respond to gaslighting and not fall victim to it!

Questions to Ask Yourself

  1. Explain the difference between healthy disagreements and gaslighting.
  2. What are some common gaslighting phrases, tactics, or behaviors?
  3. How does gaslighting relate to narcissistic-codependent relationships?
  4. Why is gaslighting considered a form of emotional abuse?
  5. What is the best way to respond to gaslighting?

Journaling Prompts

  • Give a detailed account of the worst gaslighting situation in your personal history.
  • How did it make you feel?
  • How did you respond?
  • What would you have done differently given what you know now?

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SESSION FOUR: Recognizing and Handling “Hoovering”

This session is devoted to what “hoovering” is, why narcissists do it, and why it’s so dangerous. We’ll also cover how you can distinguish hoovering from genuine apologies, as well as how to respond to hoovering and protect yourself in the future!

Questions to Ask Yourself

  1. Explain “hoovering” in your own words …
  2. Why is this a popular method of manipulation and control among narcissists?
  3. What are some of the most common ways narcissists hoover?
  4. Name some key differences between genuine apologies and “fauxpologies.”
  5. What is the best way to respond to respond to hoovering?

Journaling Prompts

  • Describe a time someone tried to hoover you.
  • How did they try and trick you into coming back?
  • Were they successful?
  • How would you manage the situation differently given your newfound hoovering knowledge?

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SESSION FIVE: Leaving a Narcissist

Congratulations … You’ve come a long way! In this last session, we’ll look at why leaving a narcissist is so difficult, as well as how to acknowledge your toxic relationship cycle. From there, we’ll cover how you can build a reliable support system; why going “no contact” is so crucial; as well as how to FINALLY break free from a toxic relationship and narcissistic abuse and reclaim control of your life!

Questions to Ask Yourself

  1. Why is leaving a narcissist so difficult?
  2. How does hoovering affect narcissistic-codependent breakups?
  3. What are some tips to help build a reliable support system?
  4. Why is going “no contact” so crucial?
  5. What are some ways trauma therapy can help a codependent post-breakup?

Journaling Prompts

  • Have you broken up with a narcissist?
  • If so, what was your experience like?
  • If you’re looking to leave the toxic relationship you’re in now, how can this information help you take that first step?
  • What pieces of your plan can you put together now?
  • And what problems do you need to find solutions for?

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BONUS SESSION SIX: Co-Parenting with a Narcissist

If you share children with a toxic or narcissistic partner or ex, then this extra BONUS session is an absolute must. Most courses on narcissistic-codependent relationships focus on removing yourself from that toxic dynamic, but that’s not an option when children are involved. Inside this session, you’ll:

  • Learn about the codependent/narcissist parenting dynamic and how no two toxic parents are alike.
  • Discover how to cope with and resolve the specific emotional, legal, and financial challenges of co-parenting with a narcissist.
  • Find out how you can protect both your children and yourself from your partner’s or ex’s manipulative games.
  • Understand what “parallel parenting” is and whether or not it works.
  • And determine how you can take back control, for the sake of you children and yourself!

Basically, this BONUS module will provide you the strategies and tools you need to protect your children and yourself, as well as create the most suitable co-parenting arrangement possible with your ex.

Questions to Ask Yourself

  1. Describe some methods narcissistic parents use to emotionally harm their children and co-parent.
  2. What are some differences among various subsets of narcissist parents?
  3. What specific challenges do codependents endure when co-parenting with a narcissist?
  4. What can we do to protect our children?
  5. What is parallel parenting, and can it work?

Journaling Prompts

  • What are some of your takeaways from this lesson?
  • Do you have personal experience, either as a child or as a partner, with a narcissistic parent?
  • How does this information illuminate your understanding of those relationships?

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