by Sherry Gaba | May 19, 2026 | Codependency, Obsessive Love, Relationships
One of the least understood dynamics in codependency is subconscious avoidance. Many people believe codependency is simply about loving too much, being overly giving, or staying too long in difficult relationships. But underneath those behaviors is often something...
by Sherry Gaba | May 12, 2026 | Codependency, Relationships, Trauma
There is a particular kind of mother who rarely gets acknowledged – the over-functioning mother of adult children and now, perhaps, grandchildren. She is capable, dependable, and endlessly giving. She answers every call. She watches the kids at the last minute....
by Sherry Gaba | Apr 14, 2026 | Codependency, Relationships, Trauma
Many people who identify as people-pleasers also carry a diagnosis of ADD or ADHD – or quietly suspect they have it. They struggle with focus, follow-through, memory, and organization, yet are highly attuned to other people’s needs, emotions, and...
by Sherry Gaba | Apr 7, 2026 | Codependency, Obsessive Love, Relationships
Empathic people are often described as deeply feeling, emotionally attuned, and relationally generous. They sense shifts in mood, pick up on unspoken needs, and care profoundly about the inner world of others. These qualities are beautiful – and they can also...
by Sherry Gaba | Mar 31, 2026 | Codependency, Narcissism, Obsessive Love, Relationships
In the age of social media, visibility has become currency. Attention, followers, likes, and proximity to influence are often mistaken for worth. Within this landscape, a particular relational dynamic has become increasingly common: the clout-chasing narcissist. This...
by Sherry Gaba | Mar 17, 2026 | Codependency, Obsessive Love, Relationships
In many unhealthy family systems, there is an unspoken rule everyone follows but rarely names: watch out for the missing stair. The term “missing stair phenomenon” describes a dynamic in which a harmful, volatile, or emotionally unsafe family member is...
