by Sherry Gaba | Feb 11, 2020 | Obsessive Love, Relationships, Trauma
As infants we become attached to our primary caretaker. We call it bonding. As we begin to form our own identity, we begin to detach. We call this individuation. If we do not do this, then we never grow up and become our own person—the individual we were meant to be....
by Sherry Gaba | Sep 26, 2019 | Codependency, Trauma
In many codependent relationships, addiction is part of the relationship. In Ramona M. Asher’s book “Women With Alcoholic Husbands: Ambivalence and the Trap of Codependency,” the issue of the interactive nature of the relationship, the effects of the...
by Sherry Gaba | Oct 23, 2018 | Codependency, Relationships, Trauma
Most of us tend to pick partners who reflect the vision we have of ourselves and our world. When you think about it, it makes a lot of sense. Compatibility and a sense of ease in a relationship come from having similar preferences, ideas, and values about things like...
by Sherry Gaba | Sep 5, 2018 | Codependency, Obsessive Love, Relationships, Trauma
Nurturing someone, helping them to grow and change for the better, is part of a loving relationship. People in healthy relationships often say that over time, their partner has helped them become a better person. But when nurturing turns into an obsession, it becomes...
by Sherry Gaba | Jul 31, 2018 | Obsessive Love, Relationships, Trauma
Trauma can occur in many different forms. For children, the things that create trauma may not be the same as what creates trauma in adults, but there will be areas where there are significant similarities. In my new book “Love Smacked: How to Stop the Cycle of...
by Sherry Gaba | Jul 5, 2018 | Codependency, Psychotherapy, Relationships, Trauma
In my new book “Love Smacked”, I explore the various complexities of relationship addiction. As a guideline to a working definition and a greater understanding, keep in mind that any type of addiction is something that causes a negative occurrence in the...
