Intergenerational Trauma and Narcissistic Abuse

June 09, 2023

Intergenerational trauma and narcissistic abuse are two complex and interconnected issues that can have a profound impact on individuals and families. Intergenerational trauma refers to the transmission of trauma from one generation to the next, often through patterns of behavior, beliefs, and attitudes that are passed down within families. Narcissistic abuse, on the other hand, is a form of emotional and psychological abuse that is characterized by a pattern of manipulation, control, and exploitation by a person with narcissistic personality disorder.

The link between intergenerational trauma and narcissistic abuse is complex and multifaceted. In many cases, individuals who have experienced trauma in their own lives may be more vulnerable to being targeted by narcissistic abusers. This is because trauma can leave individuals with a range of emotional and psychological vulnerabilities, including low self-esteem, difficulty setting boundaries, and a tendency to seek validation and approval from others.

Narcissistic abusers are often skilled at identifying and exploiting these vulnerabilities, using tactics such as gaslighting, manipulation, and emotional blackmail to gain control over their victims. Over time, this can lead to a cycle of abuse that perpetuates intergenerational trauma, as the patterns of behavior and attitudes that underpin narcissistic abuse are passed down from one generation to the next.

Breaking this cycle of intergenerational trauma and narcissistic abuse requires a multifaceted approach that addresses both the individual and systemic factors that contribute to these issues. This may involve therapy and support for individuals who have experienced trauma and narcissistic abuse, as well as education and awareness-raising initiatives to help break the cycle of abuse and promote healthy relationships and family dynamics.

Ultimately, addressing intergenerational trauma and narcissistic abuse requires a commitment to healing and growth, both on an individual and societal level. By working together to raise awareness, promote healing, and create supportive environments for those who have experienced trauma and abuse, we can begin to break the cycle and create a brighter future for ourselves and future generations.


Sherry Gaba, LCSW and Transformation Coach

Author of Love Smacked: How to Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency to Find Everlasting Love

And Wake Up Recovery for Toxic Relationships, Codependency and Love Addiction

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